I think this is where Albert Bandua's social learning theory comes into play. His theory is that personalities are simply something that is learned; it is the sum total of all the ways we have learned to act, think, and feel (Lahey, 410). His theory is really based on the fact that humans play an active role in determining their actions and that their actions are altered by the individual's perception of the social environment. This is where subjective reality comes into play again. People see reality differently from each other. When one person finds themselves in a situation, they may perceive it differently than the next person, causing a different reaction. I believe that how we perceive our surroundings has to do with what we have learned are the good and bad reactions of the people around us. An individual's similar reaction creates traits. Traits are defined as relatively enduring patterns of behavior that are relatively consistent across situations (Lahey 396). Albert's trait theory suggests that because traits are groups of coherent reactions, it is the best way to predict and understand an individual. I think the word trait is also a broad definition, to group similar reactions together. Humans have similar traits such as shy, polite and angry. Our personalities are created by traits that are predictable patterns of reactions resulting from being in similar social contexts and learning from those contexts. As we age, our personality changes and grows because we encounter more situations. Over time we will face situations, react and have time to look back and learn. So when we find ourselves faced with that situation again we will have already learned to perceive it. We will react similarly and those similarities are the traits that make up ours