I see how not going to college has affected him, how drugs control him, and every now and then I see him through a glass window anguished in prison asking for bail. However, I don't take these experiences and cry over his failures, but instead learn from every mistake he makes and promise myself to never follow his way of life. As a younger brother, I should look up to my older brother as a role model and guide, but I have come to realize that he has become the tool that has shaped me and taught me everything I shouldn't become. It is these continuous experiences that have made me mature into who I am today. A few years ago, when I was fourteen, I remembered staying up late one night after my brother got kicked out of the house and living with my father. During this night I wrote a long note to my brother asking him to change and stop hurting our family. As time passed and I saw my mother suffer from depression, I promised her that I would help change things. After a few weeks had passed, I found a family support group called Nar-Anon,