In “Like Mexican” when Gary announced that he had fallen in love with a Japanese girl, his family did not immediately accept the good news that Gary thought it was. Gary's grandmother wanted him to marry an "Okie" (people different from his own culture). Gary's family's false assumption has led to disbelief and hesitation, but Gary realizes that what is defined by race and ethnicity does not determine who you are and your life. financial situation (Soto 280). In the end Gary Soto managed to be “different” and not follow his Mexican stereotypes. No matter what race, country or ethnicity people are, the lesson he learned from his experience is that people can also have similar financial status and living environment. In contrast, Deborah Tannen’s “Gender in the Classroom” conducts surveys and observations by sorting students into “the degree programs they were in, one by gender and one by conversational style.” The four foreign students “talked in class at least occasionally” (Tannen 286). However, it was particularly difficult for the Japanese woman to speak in an all-female group because she was so “overwhelmed” by the change in atmosphere; She was surprised by the other women, quiet and shy, to be so talkative and loud. “Different ethics” resulting from different backgrounds led to the success of Tannen's experiment. Tannen also learned a lesson from his polling. Did he think that “everyone's style changes in response to the context and the styles of others” no