The whole point of sleeping with someone is to have children. So wouldn't diversifying the spread of your genes be a good tactic to ensure survival? This is where monogamy really comes into play. There are two types of monogamy we've talked about: social and sexual. Social refers to a partnership, while sexual refers to the sexual partner. The notion of monogamous social partnerships has been strengthened over multiple generations and, with the help of social analysis, is feasible. Research has supported this phenomenon, but sexual monogamy is a different story. Sexual monogamy, or having one sexual partner, is an act that challenges our natural chemistry to procreate as much as possible. But this contradicts the principle of social monogamy, because we think the two go hand in hand. The reality is that the two terms are fundamentally different and therefore have difficulty relating. Emotional dependence is the foundation of modern relationships, as we increasingly move away from sex as a fundamental principle. That's the problem: we are sexual creatures and we need sexual elements in a relationship. Now, this isn't about basing everything on sex, but about honoring the fact that our bodies use sex as a physical connection with another person. To truly experience the biological end we place ourselves in, we must know the components of a relationship and then work with them