The first is violence, both physical and emotional. Violent acts never happen in my family. Even though my parents argue, no physical contact or emotional abuse occurred. I cannot tolerate a man hitting a woman or a woman hitting a man, and I think it is extremely inappropriate for it to happen between two adults. If my future boyfriend or husband hits me once, I will separate or divorce immediately because after it happens once, it will happen twice, three times and even more. My other cousin experienced domestic violence while growing up. Her parents are grumpy, so if she doesn't follow their rules she gets hit or slapped. Now he has some difficulty maintaining relationships with others and is unable to control his emotions well. I think this connects to the violence he experienced directly. Consequently, violence is the main element that I cannot accept